After Valentine’s Day—another excuse to eat lots of chocolate and cupcakes—it’s time to get back to the gym, but does the love-fest have to stop? A bouquet and romantic dinner are wonderful tokens of affection from your spouse or significant other, but nothing says “I love you” more than helping one another to live long and healthy lives. Supporting each one’s fitness and/or weight loss journey is very important, but can you go even farther together? Here are some tips and insights about losing weight with a loved one.
When you make fitness a priority and head out for the gym, it’s great to hear encouragement and positive feedback from your husband, wife, or boy/girlfriend. We all want to hear that our physique has toned up, we look great in our clothes, and that someone is proud of all the hard work. If you share that journey withyour loved one, though, you have continual support—possibly under the same roof. You encourage each other to not miss a workout, to make healthy eating choices at home and when dining out, and you can share in building healthy habits to support your goals… together.
Refining the Relationship
Rather than fitness becoming something that separates you, the shared weight loss journey can bring you back together and strengthen your relationship. Do you have to do the same activities all the time? Not necessarily. But you can use the same time even if participating in different classes or training. Discussing the journey, and especially whyit’s so important keeps you focused on outcomes and dreams even when you’re struggling to get excited about a workout. The goal of healthy future, modeled for your family (kids, nieces and nephews, siblings, even parents) helps remind you why it’s worth the effort. And when the outcome is based on your dreams as a couple, you’ll work together to make them a reality.
Together… But Not the Same
Real talk: even in the “same” journey, you and your loved one may not have the same results at the same time. Everyone’s body responds differently to workouts and healthy eating, and you may find yourselves out of sync. Men’s and women’s bodies also react differently, so resist discouragement if it crops up. Celebrate each other’s victories, and even engage in a little friendly competition. But remember who you (as an individual) are competing against: you! Progress is measured in how far you’ve improved from yesterday, last week, last month, last year. Even as a couple, you’re cheering each other on as you compete against “yester-you”!
Do you have kids at home? Seeing mom and dad work on their health will have ripple effects on your kids. They’ll not only follow your example but experience the transformation of healthier food choices in the household, and the benefits of parents with more energy to be active with. And even if you don’t have kids, you have other loved ones in your life that may be motivated by the #couplegoals you’re bringing to life through your combined fitness journey.
Ultimately, the end goal isn’t merely svelte bodies in tight clothes. And it’s not health for health’s sake, but rather lifelong health and fitness that empowers you to live fully. Reduce the risk of disease, improve your chances of conceiving and growing your family, enjoy travel and more activity, and have the energy to give more time to the charities and causes you cherish. As you build that life together with someone you love, it goes beyond fitness and workouts. But it can certainly start there… and it’ll be awesome to watch where it takes the two of you!